As a software engineer, you may spend most of your time in front of a computer, but you’re still part of a human team. In any team, difficult conversations are inevitable. Whether you are an individual contributor or an engineering manager, you may eventually have to scrutinize your team’s approach to architecting a program, maintaining quality code, addressing a co-worker’s attitude toward a new task, or addressing a personality conflict.
The Importance of Communication at WorkEach of us has our own level of comfort related to difficult conversations, but it’s safe to say that these conversations aren’t easy for anyone. Additionally, bosses who hang up on you, defensive team members, and unreasonable clients can raise anxiety levels related to even a simple conversation. It’s easy to want to avoid difficult conversations at work, but we all know that procrastination won’t help the problem. Luckily, there are some steps you can take to prepare.
Before the Conversation: Maintain a Positive MindsetWe’ve written before about why good listeners make good leaders and how to have one-on-ones. Harvard Business Review lists a few other ways to prepare yourself for a conversation that makes you nervous:
No matter how much you prepare, any conversation can throw you some curveballs. Staying present during the conversation can help you pivot your approach, depending on what the other person says:
No matter how the conversation goes, you will have taken the first step in addressing the problem. Not addressing a challenging issue can eat away at you, affect your productivity at work, and distract you on the evenings and weekends. Whatever you learn—about both your communication strengths and the strengths of your team—will help you as your career moves forward.
A strong communicator is an essential part of any team. With planning, intention, and practice, anyone can improve their communication skills and learn to negotiate conflict gracefully. Have any other tips? We’d love to hear them below!
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